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Making plans is something I loved to do. For a long time, I was constantly making plans and setting goals for different ways to earn extra income. My planning process would go well, but when it came to the execution stage, I would struggle. I would either perform very poorly, give up, or quickly move on to my next plan. I couldn’t understand why I kept repeating this cycle, so I did some self-reflection. I thought about this a lot and the following is what I concluded.

Take a moment to consider this: no matter where we live, whether it’s an apartment in the city or a house in the country, we all live in a psychological house located in our mind.

Our psychological house is a reflection of our inner world.  This house is made up of our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, and it is where our feelings of safety and security reside.

For many of us, our psychological house is menaced by what I like to call a two-headed monster.

One head is called Procrastination and the other head is called Comfort Zone, CZ for short.

This Monster’s sole reason for existence is to keep us captive in our psychological house.

Today many of us share a common goal: to live the best life possible. Usually, to do so, we feel we must increase our income, which can be done by taking on an extra job or starting a business. Those of us with an entrepreneurial spirit often choose to start a home-based business, which allows us to pursue our dreams without having to leave the comfort of our own home.

As we develop our business ideas, make plans and set goals, we often look out the window of our psychological house and see visions of the life we could have if we are able to get past the monster guarding the door. We envision all the things we want to do for ourselves and for our loved ones, but the reality is that in order to monetize any business idea, we must be able to leave our psychological house and face the challenges that come with taking the risks necessary to succeed. It is only by taking these risks that we can reach our goals and truly realize our dreams.

However, when we dare to approach the door to step out of our psychological house, to put our plans in motion and actually make contact with potential customers, the monster attacks us. He does not attack us with fire shooting from his nostrils, or roaring like other monsters, he does something much more sinister.

The heads of the monster will both start whispering to us. Softly at first, then louder as we get closer to the door that separates us from the people/prospects we planned to contact.

Procrastination, who knows that we are afraid of failure and of  taking risks, whispers, “you can do it later, your presentation is not perfect enough, people may say no, you really don’t feel like going out, you have more important things to do, work on your plans some more, just relax you can try again tomorrow”.

CZ, who knows that we are intimidated by the thought of interacting with people, whispers, “you are not good enough, people will see and judge you, they will reject you, they will laugh at you and say you’re not smart. You had better stay where it’s safe. Tomorrow will be a better day, you don’t need the stress today”. 

Our hearts drop and we retreat in disappointment. We tell ourselves that we will make contact at a later time, that it’s not important to do it right now. We try to convince ourselves that this is true, but deep down we know that it’s not. 

We realize that the moment is passing and that our chances of making a connection has been lost.  We know what is going on, but emotionally the monster has us trapped.

At this point some of us are beginning to feel defeated. we realize that our psychological house is really a prison that we are tethered to.

We are now feeling frustrated because we understand that in order to reach our goals, grow to our fullest potential, and make the money we desire, we must find a way to defeat the scary monster that stands in our way. We know that this is not going to be an easy task, but we must find a way to overcome it if we want to achieve our sought after success.

 But how do we do it?

 As with any problem, our first step is to identify exactly what the monster is, where it comes from and what gives it its strength.

Upon close examination we learn that the fierce mythical monster with two heads, who has been keeping us prisoner, has a name.

His name is FEAR.

For us, he is the shadow on the stair that we have given power to. We have allowed him to grow big and powerful by feeding him all of our insecurities, problems and hurts.

Now he is keeping us prisoner. There is only one way for us to get rid of Fear, the scary monster who’s blocking our path.

The magic key was given to me by my old Mentor many years ago. Sorry to say, at the time, I did not understand the profound power contained in the information he shared. It was such a simple statement.

He said “If you do the things that you fear, the death of Fear is certain”.

Stated another way:  it is through the action of actually doing the things that we fear, that we take Fear’s power over us away.

Don’t believe me? Try it next time Fear rears either of his ugly heads in your life. Don’t stop. Keep working in spite of how you may feel. Remember,  F.E.A.R is false evidence appearing real.  Do not believe In Fear, believe in yourself. Fear has no real power over us unless we give into it.  Open your psychological door, step through it and work confidently to accomplish all of your goals.  You possess everything you need to make your dreams come true.

Quotes for Reflection

There are more than six billion people in the world, don’t let a few negative people deter you. (Unknown)

When you avoid failure, you avoid success. (Robert T. Klyosaki)

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. (Suzy Kassem)

There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. (Aristotle)

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